We focus on the differences, but we have so much in common.
Neither here or there.
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Neighbor Puppy Wants to Know If She Can Borrow a Cup of Sugar
The Fluffington Post has received numerous reports that the puppy next door is baking scones and just ran out of sugar. The recipe only calls for one cup, so if you can lend her some, she’ll return the favor by sharing said scones with you when they’re ready.
Thank you so much, she really appreciates it.
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It seems these days that I am the one who has to make the effort of keeping in contact, of putting the effort in, keeping conversation, and friendships going. 9/10 if I don’t say something to them I will never hear from them. I have to walk up and say hi, I have to send the email.
I know people love me, I know people care. But clearly, this shy introspective person has to pretend to be someone else or I’m just not interesting enough.
Rita Ackermann, Fire By Days XV, 2011
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100 Portraits of Women and Men Between the Ages of 1 and 100
1 to 100 Years Project is an awesome portrait project by Belgian photographer Edouard Janssens in which he photographed 100 women and 100 men at each age between 1 and 100. His goal was to show the aging process in a positive manner and to provide an interesting visualization of the link between generations. He didn’t handpick the subjects either — all the participants volunteered through the project’s website (excluding the kids, of course).
Interestingly enough, Janssens himself appears in the project — his self-portrait can be seen at number 50 on the men’s side.The photographs were also arranged into slideshow videos:
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^^^^^ says it all in these paragraphs.notes found in the girls bathroom on my campus
May I also state that this is false? Men are not over 99% of the perpetrators. That is buying into a myth, and spreading lies. If you’re going to spread awareness, do it RIGHT.
- One in six adult men reported being sexually molested as children, and — in a surprise finding — nearly 40 percent of the perpetrators were female, a new study found. (Source Link)
- In cases of daycare molestation, more than 60% of children who were molested, were molested by women. – (Source link)
- Approximately 95% of all youth reporting staff sexual misconduct said they had been victimized by female staff. In 2008, 42% of staff in state juvenile facilities were female. (Bureau of Justice Report)
- In a study of 17,337 survivors of childhood sexual abuse, 23% had a female-only perpetrator and 22% had both male and female perpetrators. ( Dube, Shanta R et al. “Long-Term Consequences of Childhood Sexual Abuse by Gender of Victim.” American Journal of Preventive Medicine. (2005):28(5), p 430 – 438.
- According to a major 2004 study commissioned by the U.S. Department of Education – In studies that ask students about offenders, sex differences are less than in adult reports. The 2000 AAUW data indicate that 57.2 percent of all students report a male offender and 42.4 percent a female offender with the Cameron et al. study reporting nearly identical proportions as the 2000 AAUW data (57 percent male offenders vs. 43 percent female offenders).. (Source .PDF Download)
Yes, it is an issue that society defines it as a Women’s issue, because it’s not. It allows men to feel safe and secure that they wont be raped— which clearly is a false assumption. Then, it allows groups that provide service and help for victims to shrug off male victims. It allows men to be victimized further by the justice system and by society as a whole. It also makes it very difficult to prove a point in terms of non-opposite-sex couples. Rape, sexual assault, and molestation isn’t a women’s issue. It’s a society issue.
Also, some men don’t even feel safe walking around by themselves at night in some areas. Stop spreading myth, lies, and generalizations in order to “make a point”. It helps no one in the long run.
The thing is that these people must think that they are being helpful when they make up these statistics and spread them everywhere. But who do they think they are helping? Who is helped when you make women more scared than they should be? Who is helped when you vilify men more than you should do? Who is helped when you enable female rapists? Who is helped when you erase their victims?
I might as well say ‘over 99% of crime is perpetrated by Mexicans’ (1) and think that I’m being helpful. How does that logic even make sense? The statement on its own is offensive, because of the accusations it makes regarding the disposition to rape amongst Mexicans vs other ethnicities. It’s racist on those grounds alone. But when you look at the fact that this prejudice is backed up by institutional discrimination, it becomes a whole magnitude more problematic. So the prejudice and libel alone is sexist, but when you consider that men (like certain ethnic minorities) face profiling by law enforcement officers - a bias which extends throughout the whole legal system - based on this sort of prejudice, it becomes inexcusable. Not only is the sexism now part of a wider oppressive system, but it perpetuates that system. This isn’t helping anybody, and in supporting sexist ideals it is hurting the whole of society. Always check your facts, because simple mistakes can cause a great deal of suffering.
The ‘half the population’ (3) bit also doesn’t make sense, unless they are referring to men. Why? Because the vast, vast majority of stranger violence happens to men. The only type of violence women are at a greater risk of is sexual violence, and even that is only when you discount prison rape. But, if you know anything at all about these issues, you’ll also know that most (and I mean the vast, vast majority again) sexual violence against women comes from somebody they know, including people within the relationship. So ‘going out on a walk at night’ is pretty much safe for women, and so much safer than it is for men given that men face a higher risk of all other assault, mugging, and even murder.
That then deals with another few of the post-its, the ones about gender violence. Men have no idea how men’s violence affects women (2)? I wouldn’t be surprised, because it barely affects women at all compared to the levels to which it affects men. Sexual and domestic violence? If you’re not using the ridiculous 99% statistic, you’ll now realise that you can’t use ‘women’ to mean victim and ‘man’ to mean attacker, so it doesn’t ‘tell us more about men’ (5) at all. Men are actual victim to quite a lot of domestic violence, as well as a fair amount of sexual assault. ‘Gender violence’? (4) That’s your name for the few types of violence which affect women on a scale even slightly comparable to that of men, whilst the others are leagues apart. You make these types of violence seem more important, so that you can focus on women only and ignore the fact that men suffer obscenely greater levels of violence overall. The video at the start of this post, and the post itself, give a good discussion of what ‘gender violence’ really means.
There are too many to go through, but you should probably get the point by now. Whatever your intention, please stop perpetuating these harmful myths. They really don’t help anyone.
I don’t know who Jackson Katz is, but apparently he’s a fucking liar.
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